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Originally Posted by mushishi
What is the reason for not wanting to ask?
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I think that depents on the concept of your relationship.
If you want role-models of a dominant and active spanker and a submissive passive spankee, it would not work, if the submissive asks for any action.
And if you have some kind of -let's call it 'fictional'- background, like pretending that although in reality the spanking is consensual and a turn on for both, in fantasy a spanking is some sort of punishment, and the spankee does not want to be spanked and tries everything to avoid it, then it would spoil the fun, if the spankee admits to wanting one.
Another thing is: most spankees I met want the spanker to take control. It's not the pain that gets to them, but the act of submission and the idea of anonther person being in charge.