Telling a partner you like to be Spanked.

[Glorindor]

Telling someone something like this is a difficult thing to do. I've actually never really had to "tell" someone, as she sort of suggested it during our first time in the bedroom, and I just told her that I was a spanko. I don't consider that telling someone because she already wanted to be spanked, so the mood was right.

How would YOU go about getting your partner to spank you? Or how have you already?

[Hawke]

I think that it is a bit easier for a girl to drop a hint she would like to be spanked then it is for a guy. Since I am into spanking girls, my experince is limited to this. Once with a girl who I had not spanked, it was on our second date, we were running a little late to attend a play and were in danger of being late because she was late getting ready when I came to pick her up. On the way she said, " If I have caused us to be late, you can spank me. " That was a hint. We just made it on time, but she was spanked for almost makeing us late. Other times the hint was dropped when I girl did or didn't do something she should have or should not have and said " I ought to be spanked." Another time a girl said " I wouldn't blame you if you spanked me. " These are just hints useing common expressions which may or may not be testing the waters, but they are something to pick up on and see where they lead. Once a less subtle hint was when discussing films the girl said she liked the John Wayne - Mareen O'Hara films like McLintock where John Wayne spanked her over his knee. I asked her how she felt about spanking and I will never forget her reply, " there are time when I need to be spanked, even times when I want to be spanked. " So in most of these cases the girl introduced the topic in a causual way.

[ellipsis39]

I never had to hint, he was into it long before me, so it didn't take him long to discover I was latently submissive. Later in our relationship, I would tease him--as a hint that I wanted to be spanked, with sex to follow. Sometimes just a certain eye contact or body language was enough, as we became more tuned into each other.

I have asked him directly to spank me for therapy, however. This happens when I get wound up too tightly and need to get de-stressed. A good hard spanking works very well!

[Pastel]

I'm afraid it's been pretty easy for me. Once I've been on a few dates, and someone asks about my artistic side, they eventually want to see some of my drawings... And well, it just goes from there. ^^;;

I'm afraid it's been pretty easy for me. Once I've been on a few dates, and someone asks about my artistic side, they eventually want to see some of my drawings... And well, it just goes from there. ^^

That'sa very interesting way to tell someone you're a spanko ! And haven't your ever met someone who got afraid because of that interest, seeing your drawings ?

[Glorindor]

One fantasy scenario I have is having the partner who you want to tell you like spankings do something bad, then spank them, and reveal it then.