Spanking Emotions

[mushishi]

What kind of emotions do you feel during (also before/after) a spanking ?
What would you like to feel ?

For example a few people (not jus from here) mentioned having felt hatred towards the one that spanked them (probably involved some really hard spanking),
but there are of course all the other emotions...
How is it with you ?
Both spankers and spankees are welcome to comment.


This has been discussed here and there, but when the topic came up at an other forum I post to, I decided that it deserves a thread here.

[Mushy]

Well it depends on the spankings we are discussing here.

I'd prefer to discuss the consensual, erotic punishment spankings between adults. ^_^ Um, when I'm with someone that likes to spank me, I feel exhilirated, delighted, nervous...

And afterwards, extremely content and released.

[mushishi]

Yes, consensual.
The kind you do or would like to do.

Thank you for the comment.

[Macha]

I guess "heat" sums those up quite nicely.
If you are spanking, there's the whole aspect of teasing and being able to cause quite hot reactions from the "unfortunate" partner, no? You also have a nice view, not to mention touch. What you can do is not limited to spanking either. Tickling for instance. Or general touching.
It's absolutely not about being control and completely dominating someone tho. I'd stop at the moment I realize things aren't appreciated. You can tell if you know someone well, and if not, you'll have a safeword. During a spanking, the one in control is always the spankee.

If you're spanked, uh, there's the whole sensation part, which is quite highly sexual regardless how you turn it. There certainly is the aspect of "Iyaa, what will she do to me <3". Harder spankings are still like that. Sure, there is an aspect of pain there, but well, it is ultimately not bad pain at all. Even if you're getting a hairbrush, even if you'll cry. It's sexy and quite a turn-on.


Or so I think ^^

[Kira_Wolf_Cub]

I usually feel nervous before a spanking, then hate, and finally a sort of feeling of regret and forgiveness mixed together

[mushishi]

Macha:

not bad pain at all. Even if you're getting a hairbrush, even if you'll cry.

I wouldn't have guessed that you like harder spankings sometimes.
I think I can understand you perfectly, at least from the spankers view, since that is how I feel. I like getting nice reactions, but the spankee is the most important.

And you like to tease huh ? Bet you get paid back when it's your turn.

[mushishi]

Kira_Wolf_Cub:

I usually feel nervous before a spanking, then hate, and finally a sort of feeling of regret and forgiveness mixed together

That's interesting. I'd like to know more please.
Why hate ? Because of the pain ?
What do you regret ?
Forgivness ? Do you mean you forgive the spanker or that you are forgiven or both ?

Also that sounds like a punishment. Don't you like spankings for fun?
I hope I didn't ask too much.

Thanks in advance!

[Macha]

Originally Posted by mushishi

Macha:
I wouldn't have guessed that you like harder spankings sometimes.

The ways of love are mysterious. ^^ I mostly dislike *punitive* spankings since I just don't get anything out of calling people "bad girl" or getting called that.
I never said nonpunishing spankings all have to be very light ;P Often are, but not always. It's like good wine. You don't bring that out all the time, but if you do, you'll make sure to enjoy it a lot, no?

And you like to tease huh ? Bet you get paid back when it's your turn.

Lies =O I'm doing the "paying back" already.
*mischievious smile*
For sure >=)

[Mushy]

I sometimes like the soft, erotic spankings. Not often, but definitely I get my moments. I have to agree I don't like being called bad; I just like the idea of earning my spankings. ;P Then again, that's half the fun for me. ^___^

I like the touch of it, so even punishment spankings can be erotic. It's that whole touching/connection thing. And when that happens, it's like electricity throughout me. It's kind of like when people tease around to get each other excited, and then they have sex when it builds up, and they feel that release. Well, that's like me - I get in the mood, so I tease by acting up, and then I get my release.

XD

[bobby]

When my Dad has spanked me, which he did until three years ago, (although he likes to say things like, "You're still not too big for me to put over my knee.") I was always very scared when he announced that I was going to 'get it.' I was scared because I knew how much it was going to hurt and because I dreaded the feeling of loss of control.

I never felt embarrassed or aroused when my Father took my pants down, probably because we're close and I'm his son and he was always brisk and very business like about it. It was a very quick things that sort of happened like a force of nature.

During my spankings, I mostly tried to send my mind somewhere else to escape what I was feeling, but I couldn't do it for long. Sometimes I tried not to cry, because crying felt shattering and also like a loss of control, but when it really started to hurt, and I couldn't hold it in any longer, the crying actually felt good in a way, and almost always cathartic.

Afterwards I was sometimes angry at my Dad, but never seriously. Mostly, I was angry at myself.