Disadvantages?

[Maru-sha]

I'm here after being away for a long period of time and I am gonna talk about a subject in spanking.

Disadvantage.

As a spankophile, the mere mentioning of any spanking-type activity make me blush and snicker. Needless to say this makes people worry about my mental health, but meh. My Schizophrenia and I are not bothered.

I'd like to know what everyone thinks of disadvantages when it comes to getting that spanking you want. Do you live in the middle of nowhere? Live with your parents or people who hinder you from having spanking buddies?

Or are you like me who's disadvantage is being overly shy when I'm stripped of the mask the internet gives me? Also, another disadvantage can be a handicap. I have the handicap of being "pleasantly plump", thus my spanking can't last too long unless I am laying on a bed; over the knee is my favorite~.

Anyone have a spanking disadvantage? I know I'm not the only one who has a few hindering qualities.

[childofpluto]

Originally Posted by Maru-sha

As a spankophile, the mere mentioning of any spanking-type activity make me blush and snicker.

Hah, so true! Doesn't happen too often though, but I always end up overanalyzing trying to figure out whether it's just a random occurrence or the person is also a spanko =)



Shyness is definitely my disadvantage, not only in spanking matters.

Another thing is that I got so used to keeping my spanking interest secret, that don't really know how to put it out there.

Shyness and secretiveness are not a good combo, especially when you are trying to bring up a rather, for the lack of a better word, "touchy" (no pun intended) subject...

Recently I've been trying to be more open about it, thanks to AOTK forums, that made me realize there is quite a lot of people who share this interest and who also keep it t themselves; kind of figured that meeting other spankos wouldn't happen unless I can at least talk about it. I told my best friend about it and showed her my drawings, but didn't get to a point where'd actually ask her to spank me.

[yarlson]

I want to keep mine a secret, too. And I seem to be able to find lots and lots of male spankers, but I want a female. And lots of people who want to talk about spanking, but not do it. Bloody teasers.

[Hellball]

It makes good relationships harder to find.

Finding a girl/guy who we like to be with and vice versa is hard under the best of circumstances. But when you also need someone to share a particular fetish of yours in order to be sexually fulfilled, the pool of good candidates gets even smaller.

[naughty_boi]

I agree with Hellball. My main disadvantage are finding meaningful relationships where spanking is involved. I've had 3 relationships that centered about spanking or kink in general but they were all based on physical pleasure and when the idea of romanticism came into it, the relationships failed. On the flip side, the only relationship I've had that honestly meant something to my heart was completely vanilla, which killed me and is one of the major reasons we broke up.

So now I'm stuck in the conundrum of, do I go after the people who I'm romantically inclined to be with but might not include spanking, or do I keep searching places like alt.com for the rare people within my idea of an acceptable age bracket that can fullfill my sexual desires but potentially nothing else?

It's hard.

[hellzblade]

I am in the same boat as Lia. I used to be so shy about bringing up kinks to my gfs then once i did it once it is really easy. I find kinky sexual relationships are all good but when i go for something deeper the relationship falls apart.

[Mushy]

I'm terribly shy too, and I have the same issues with getting embarrassed when spanking is brought up. I can't even say that word. Heck, even online, I'm shy about it, and embarrassed. I'm having trouble getting over that. Probably because no one likes me well enough anymore in real life to bother to talk to me, so my entire social life is online, and the idea of scaring off some of my friends with my over-enthusiastic spankophile-ness worries me.

I am hardly social, and although I've had relationships in the past that I could get a few spankings, they were all pretty silly and mild for me. =/ I'm also transsexual (pre-op), so unless $90k lands in my lap, I don't want to meet people and have them like me for what they see, when that's not who I am. =/ I've had too many issues with that already, too many people that wanted a relationship with me - sometimes spanking included - but insisted that they could convince me not to have the operation. That hurts too badly, and makes me angry.

To top it off, I'm ugly as a dog. Sooooooooo I have plenty of disadvantages that keep me from ever getting that desired proper spanking I've always wanted.

[greyrain]

I'm pretty tall and my partner is pretty short..that can be challenging sometimes. Definitely manageable, but also very restrictive at times.

[thingywhat]

i think about 99% of spankos are nervous when it come to anything spanking related with someone they don't know whos a spanko or not. this is because they worry about what people will think, because after someone knows, you cant just erase their memory, after people get over this, or let the cat out of the bag, they tend to not have these problems anymore. Ill admit im still shy and no one knows about my fetish. this causes me to overreact to anything spanking related. not cool.

[tom7669]

I have a hard time getting into relationships because I worry if she is into spanking or not which is usually something you only find out later.