A friends project: A Guide to Being Spanked.

[shadowsong2b]

So a friend of mine in her spare time, is planning on making a paper called "The Spankee's guide to getting Spanked" but she's asked me what she should include in her paper, What she's shown me is things like descriptions of positions, common implements and the all important baring of the spankee's bottom. what she's asked me for is to post a thread asking for people's idea's on what she should include besides that. Alternate punishments and such that might come with spankings.

Now This is just something she's doing in her spare time and it's not likely to get done super fast, but I do want to stress that this is mostly going to be for the AOTK community as a whole. as such lets keep it PG13 at the most. No sex talk. I don't care if that's your thing, it's not hers. or mine. So please, keep it strictly spanking related.
Thanks. I'll probably post this guide once it's finished.

[Emily]

...why would something designed for an 18-and-over site's community need to be, or WANT to be, PG-13? I mean, I get not wanting to offend the asexuals out there, but presumably they're freakin' adults and can note "Well, the sex stuff doesn't apply to me, but the rest is cool."

[milf]

To the observant, the answer is painfully obvious... A LOT of the folks on here are outright lying about age, and are in fact under 18. If they get outed shame on them for playing that game. If they don't, and an LEA finds out, then it is shame on us, just as bad as if sexual rp with character playing an minor, or any other action that could be legally deemed pedophilia . As for filtering out minors, the only internationally accepted method is CC verification to get membership. But as that method costs a pretty penny they will have to charge for membership, which may happen anyway just to keep this site going. Rant Off....

[shadowsong2b]

What I think she's talking about is just a Role playing "LITTLE'S" Guide to being spanked. I get how I didn't clarify that. but it's her rules. her project. i'm just relaying what she asked me to relay. still, and I think it'd be interesting seeing as there are all these guides to GIVING a spanking. but none for getting spanked. so I think she wanted to do something unique

[milf]

There are three paths here: Sub, Brat, Switch
Sub is the purest spankee IMHO, then the Brat who *EARNS* spankings just by being YES childish, hence the term BRAT... (Yeah I went there with the truth so go ahead ageplayers that are in denial of facts, have your stroke now please!)... Then is the most complex, the Switch who goes both ways...
Each viewpoint of lifestylers, and RPers is pretty unique even though its about one tiny topic... Spankings! My POV is from more of the Sub Spankee side:

Just as important as the positioning, baring, implements, and actual spankings, are the ambience effects. Mood setting, scolding, some humiliation, and additional punishments. These include mouthwashing, cornertime (before, during, and after), figging and the like, writing lines if an school/tutor setting. Enhancements such as having to ask for the punishments, counting swats, saying thank you for swats, asking for each/more swats, saying thank you for the whole punishment, *kissing the rod* etc...

[shadowsong2b]

I'll pass it along Milf. Thanks for your input.

[Emily]

Originally Posted by shadowsong2b

What I think she's talking about is just a Role playing "LITTLE'S" Guide to being spanked.

Ohhhhh, okay, that makes a lot more sense.

From a role-playing perspective, I think it's good to provide your RP partner with stuff to work with. If you only depict your character's physical reactions, that can lead to a "Smack!" "Ouch!" loop that's not very satisfying for either party. Instead, give some detail about your character's emotional reaction to the spanking, whether it's shame, defiance, anger, acceptance, whatever. That puts some emotional meat on the bare bones of the physical ass-smackery.

[shadowsong2b]

I can confirm that she's doing a Littles guide to being spanked. by that I mean Role play. But she wants to make it similar to a 'how to give a spanking' guide. which for the life of me I cant find (!?) which is why she's asking for life experiences she can translate.

Also by Roleplay she means both IRL and Cyber world.

[naughtypadawan]

I've seen several "How to spank" documents online, but I don't have any URLs at my fingertips. The best ones out there (IMO) are Arkham Insanity's pictoral descriptions of how to give four types of spankings.

My own experience is that Littles' roleplay spankings are somewhere between Arkham's Stress Relief and Punishment spankings.

My advice to spankees in that situation would be:

*Whine and fuss all you like, but don't fight your spanker too hard. They have feelings too, and they don't like to be kicked or cussed out.

* Get into your role and really give it your all. I don't mean by lashing out and smashing things--unless your spanker has agreed to that. I mean put your emotional all in to the role. Your spanker is likely to appreciate your commitment to wide-eyed terror at the threat of being spanked, your remorseful yelping (or tears, if you can do that) while you're being spanked, and your affectionate neediness and want of cuddling afterward. If you give out authentic signals, you're likely to get authentic responses back.

* Make it up to your spanker afterward. Give them a bouquet of hand-picked dandelions, or draw them a card saying how much you care about them, or go to bed without making a fuss when they tell you. Spankers do so much for us, and they deserve some recognition too.

[shadowsong2b]

I'll pass this along, THanks Naughtypadawan