How do you bring up spanking in convorsation?

[JamieSpanks]

First off, I would like to say hey! I'm new here. My name is Jamie, I'm 24 years old. I live in the USA. Hehe anyway that's all for my quick intro.

With my first girlfriend, we were in my basement and just talking (I was texting one of my friends also). She tells me that she feels left out because I'm texting while talking [im so childish], and she says she feels left out. So i say, "Fine!" and throw my phone down between us. As im going to get it, i purposefully bend over facing her and say "Whatcha gonna do? Spank me?" Turns out, she's not a spanko =(...

My latest gf, who I had no idea was a spanko until a few weeks ago, actually brought it up herself. It was after a few weeks of seeing eachother and she just plain out asked me, "Jamie, could I ask you a personal question?" after agreeing, she asked what, if any, fetishes I had, then said that she had a spanking fetish. I was so excited i almost [literally] jumped out of my seat!

If this helps anyone in anyway, i would be surprised, but hey, that's my experiences with bringing it up.

[Nintendo Freak]

Originally Posted by JamieSpanks

First off, I would like to say hey! I'm new here. My name is Jamie, I'm 24 years old. I live in the USA. Hehe anyway that's all for my quick intro.
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Welcome to the site. Also, I must say that your first story had such a disappointing and anti-climactic ending that it gave me quite a laugh. Congratulations on ending up with a spanko on your most recent relationship though.

[Cc]

Originally Posted by JamieSpanks

she asked what, if any, fetishes I had, then said that she had a spanking fetish. I was so excited i almost [literally] jumped out of my seat!

You are SO lucky...hm..need a boyfriend before this happens. xD

Yes, I have no clue how I'd ever bring up spanking in a situation. Actually when I was younger, I remember telling my best friend I had an interesting spanking. We were on messenger, so maybe without having to look her in the face I felt braver. I don't remember what subject we were on at all...xD

But anyways, I told her and she acted like something was wrong with me, asking me things like "Well, when did you start feeling this way.." and other really disheartening things...I might have blocked it out somewhat, or I just have a bad memory, but both of us never mentioned it again..and ever since I've never wanted to bring up my fetish with anyone I know in real life again.

It's a pretty scary thing, bringing it up. Sigh...especially for me. I'm not trying to discourage you, we're still best friends, but it made me very hesitant to ever discuss anything sexual-likes wise with my friends again. -.-

[Dante-hand]

Thats sad Cc I myself have tried and failed to bring it up in a friendship. I do have one good friend who I constantly tell is gonna get a b-day spanking. We laugh and shes says it aint gonna happen XD. One of these days I intend to work up the guts to attempt to bring it up and follow through but so far... nadda.

[Aprion]

I'm usually not the one that brings it up in a conversation. But if someone brings up the subject i will openly talk ( and sometimes joke ) about it. Lots of times people will just stare at you blankly as if your shorted out in the head or something. It's anoying when they do that but its just something you gotta get through. They may think im weird. but i know the treuth, that im perfectly sane. I dont go out of my way to hide it either unlike some people.

Anyways i often find that the best way to bring it up is as a joke or a ( witty ) remark. that way if people get to weirded out you can brush it off as a silly spur of the moment thing. they either get it or they dont. if they do then all is well if they dont.. well their loss i suppose. ^_^

[hellzblade]

Well i used to worry about how to sneak it in and have used the b day spanking line before and it has worked and not worked fun when it works, and actually not that akward when it fails since it was a "joke" to start with. I have also brought it up in a group of all my friends guys and girls on a house boating trip i said something along the lines of "yeah a great way i like to warm up for sex is giving my partner a good spanking" and most people laughed a few people said hell yeah my one pal went white in the face and one girl called me a brute" so now i find it is easy to bring up to anyone that is not family. Spanking is pretty common after all no one has to know how extreme you go. let them think it is a few stingy slaps on the butt. And the people who don't like and ca't be talked into it (has not yet happened to me) can bugger off and have fun with there boring vanilla sex life.

Bringing up and talking about spanking is just like when you first start trying to ask the opposite sex out. At first it is sooo scary and akward and troubling, but as soon as you do it a fe times you can laugh back on it and realise it is easy to do.

[Eintyp]

You know how half the internet people are socially inept? Yeah. Always a huge problem...

[PEACEandLOVE]

Originally Posted by Eintyp

You know how half the internet people are socially inept? Yeah. Always a huge problem...

Ah, such a sad truth.

[FREAK]

When I wanted to know if my new boyfriend is into it I just acted a bit naughty. One day he told me for example that my oral marks in engl were really bad (which is true -_-) and we discussed about this topic a little. And later the day I wrote him 'I won't raise my hand in class, you can spank me for it ' and he sooo jumped at the idea and now we're having a lot of fun ♥
And it could've been a joke either that's the clue.

[spankhappyvampire]

It was actually a mistake my last one discovered. It was his birthday and it was a tradition at my school, so I spanked him and we went on. It wasn't til later when we were alone and I said something like "giveing you your birthday spanking was fun, I'll have to do it again" and he bet over and it went from there. =)